Idiotic Things People Say
Here is Idiotic Thing #1: In the middle of an argument with someone you say: "You don't know me." You say this in some sort of defense of your argument. As though it is someone else's responsibility to know what you won't tell them. If you're not going to tell people about you, don't expect them to know you. And if they don't "know you," don't use it as an argument because it's you're own fault and makes you look like even more of an idiot.
I really don't understand why people seem to feel proud at shutting people out. As though it is some sort of accomplishment to be rewarded to make it as difficult as possible for people to get close to you.
The reality of the matter is that people who do things like that realize how ill-equipped and prepared they are for dealing with other people. They're so afraid of looking like an idiot that they do the most idiotic thing, and shut everyone out. Then they get all kinds of pissed when noone understands them. Imagine that.
So get over yourself, and open yourself up to the rest of the world. You don't have to sacrifice yourself to the world, but not being a brick wall would be a good start.
posted by Writerben @ 2:17 AM
5 Comments:
you personally..arent that open though...
might wanna read a little into that
Sometimes people can't help being idiotic. That's when we have to make the conscious decision of whether we let it bother us or not. Furthermore, people sometimes just need some extra help to break down those walls they worked so hard to build. I (unfortunately)have to admit I understand that. About the love thing-I'm in the same boat you are. Patience seems to be hardest thing to obtain these days.
I am not suggesting that openess is a requisite for all relationships- especially in the beginning. But I would not use a lack of information or openness on my part as an argument in my favor. I wouldn't blame someone for something they couldn't possibly know unless I told them. Openness is wonderful when you can find someone to be open with. And I do hope that one day I can find that person who would appreciate my openness. And I have been blessed on a couple of occasions to find such a person before. But whoever crys is, is correct. I am not always open. But it is with reason and not flippant reason at that. And in the end, I and I alone am responsible for what I do or do not divulge, not the other person. Therein lies the difference that irks me.
People usually get close to people they trust. If someone won't get close to you or open up, then they probably don't trust you with their heart, their ego, or their emotions. How can you blame them for that mistrust? Perhaps you did, do, have done something to cause them to build walls and keep you out or maybe they just have issues. Whatever it is, it's not always the other person's fault, sometimes we do things that prompt people to keep their distance. Also, some people keep others at a distance not because it is an 'accomplishment' to get close to them or they like to cause you pain, they do it because something in their past has caused them to build these walls. Some walls you can break through and when you do, you might discover a lovely person underneath. Some walls you can never break through. It's up to you to decide who is worth the fight and who is not.
Hey, I know we haven't spoken since the few times after we exchanged e-mails. And to tell you the truth, I haven't read any of your stuff since then. But today I stopped in. I really enjoyed the poems! A lot. And I completely relate to the "openness" argument. I am the most open, honest, and completely truthful person. My current, soon to be ex-bf, doesn't understand that. Why does being an open-book about everything seem so wrong, why are so many people so closed off? Why is everything about them so TOP SECRET, what does everyone work for the CIA or do they possibly think that by not sharing what is going on in their life that they are preserving themselves from gossip? Because thats not possible. Everyone will gossip about you at some point. This is not to say that all the world's a stage and I am ego-centric enough to think that everyone is watching me and cares enough to think about me on a regular basis, but the only way to save myself from being hurt by rumors over the years is to make my life open. If someone asks me a question, about anything, I always answer truthfully and completely. It is a fault at times, but I also feel it is one of my very best traits. And it is hard when others don't respect that. I'm sure you feel the same.
Wow, this was long. Sorry. But keep writing for those of us who need the vindication.
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